Have you ever had someone say something to you that just stopped you in your tracks? That very thing happened to me last week and I've been thinking about it ever since.
Here's the background...
I recently joined my local professional photography guild and have been going to the meetings. Like anyone coming into an existing group of people, I have been searching for my space and my people - trying to find that comfortable feeling of belonging.
This past month was my 4th meeting. Every month there is a print competition. I'm a fairly competitive person and, even though many of the typical "blue ribbon" images that come out of these competitions are different than my usual style, I was curious about learning what scores well and trying to "shoot to win." I had submitted prints twice before and done quite well so I decided to go for a third and brought in two prints to be judged. These particular prints did not do very well but that was okay. You win some and you learn some.
After the competition, I was walking out with a friend and got stopped by another fellow member. He had been one of the judges that night and saw me carrying prints and asked me which ones had been mine. I just smiled and said, "Oh, you guys didn't like them very much". He asked again which ones they were and I replied, "One was the print of the two sisters hugging". He looked back at me and said "Oh yeah, that just looked like some Mom took it."
I was shocked. I don't even really remember what I did or said. I think it was something like, "Oh well, like I said, it didn't do very well". I just exchanged a stunned glance at my friend and we kept walking. Now, I'm no rookie when it comes to critique (years and years of art school took care of that) but this remark took me aback. It wasn't criticism, it was a jab. Sure, it was mean but "mean" is easy and subsequently easy to deal with. The problem with this particular jab was that it was meant to be offensive.
Unfortunately, I hear a lot of photographers talking about the influx of new women photographers: The so-called "Moms with cameras". Some complain that these "untrained" women are bringing the industry down. Obviously, this is an ignorant view on many levels. The presumption that these women are automatically untrained is ridiculous, as is the idea that you have to be formally trained to be good. Further, the word "Mom" is being used purposefully in an attempt to be particularly denigrating. What, Moms can't be serious and professional? My first reaction is to raise my feminist flag and scream "sexism," but I don't think it's that simple.
Now, I understand what my particular "critic" was trying to say. What he was trying to say, albeit poorly, was that he felt like the image was amateurish. The point is not to debate what he meant about my print, what's important to me is to open up a dialogue about what photographers mean when they dismissively say "Mom with camera". I don't think it's simply sexism, I think it points to the fear of the establishment in the face of a changing industry. The broader issue is one of exclusion.
Until fairly recently, photography was, like many other professions, male dominated. Not anymore. Women are flocking to photography in ever-increasing numbers and for a variety of reasons. Digital technology has lowered the cost of equipment, removing one of the main barriers to entry, and women and men are setting up businesses and doing great work. Also, the public's taste for a less traditional photo-journalistic style has allowed many photographers to become successful without a traditional studio setup.
I understand the fear and the threat. Some of the seasoned pros in our business started many years ago when cameras cost a fortune and it was difficult to learn the ropes. They spent years as apprentices or in school. They didn't have instant LCD feedback to catch mistakes and there was no Photoshop to fix the mistakes that they didn't catch. You had to fix things with paintbrushes on original prints or negatives. You couldn't shoot a thousand frames hoping to get 200 good ones. It was a completely different business. Now, the "old school" is seeing the changes and almost certainly feeling worried as they ponder their professional place in relation to the changes. That's natural and I know that feeling well.
It is hard to know where any of us fit in this new and changing market. As a studio owner with a big rent payment due on the 1st and the overhead of employees and the costs of high-end equipment and printing, I have felt the frustration of not knowing where my place is next to the photographers who shoot for $100 and give away inexpensive CD's of the images. Will my customers run to them? How can I compete with that? The answer is pretty simple: I cannot compete with it and shouldn't try to.
I think we, as professional photographers, have the choice to either operate from a place of fear and circle our metaphoric wagons in an attempt to fight off and exclude or we can open our minds to new trends, technologies and people and embrace (if not welcome) the new. If we want to stay relevant then we have to move with the changes and not against them or we will be left behind. Also, our industry is not just the shooters. There are a lot of photographers and photography-related businesses that are making a lot of money on the efforts of the "Mom with camera". These new photographers are buying lights, backdrops, using labs and taking workshops from more established professionals. Those that adapt and embrace the new will survive.
Our industry leaders should be beacons for newcomers. How are newcomers supposed to mature (professionally, that is) if they aren't accepted into the fold, trained, inspired and mentored? How is a photographer, of any experience level, supposed to feel when they come forward seeking fellowship and education and their work is greeted with a scoff? I know how I felt. I felt discouraged, embarrassed and small.
There are people out there that have thousands of dollars to spend on photographs and people who have less. Are we saying that someone with only tens or hundreds of dollars to spend shouldn't have professional photographs? There are a lot of different markets. If you charge thousands then find the person who wants to pay that, who loves your work and your level of service and allow the person who has less to find their person too.
After a lot of thought, I am left with this: Before I was a Mom and before I was a professional portrait photographer, I was an art student, a high school photography teacher and a fine art photographer. One of my greatest rewards came from watching people who had never taken a photograph before watch in awe as the image appeared before them in a tray of developer, just like magic. I taught students how to start really seeing the world around them and framing it in their lens. Did all of them go off and become professional photographers? No, but a few did. All of them, however, learned to see the world in a new way and gained an appreciation for the complicated process of image making that will, at the very least, make them better photography consumers.
I get it. I understand the fear and the feelings of self-preservation. When your livelihood and your dreams are in danger, the easy answer is to eliminate the competition. The problem with that position is that, while you stand still, others will be moving forward, growing and adapting. In the end, if you love what you do, work hard at it and stay away from your fear long enough to do it, consider yourself blessed and don't begrudge others their joy. As for me, a professional photographer and camera wielding Mom, I am excited about a world filled great pictures and with people who love and value photography.
(photo of me by Julie Denning: photography student, my assistant and pro photographer-soon-to-be)

If you ask me, he gave you a compliment. There is nothing finer than being a mom and his jab will only inspire you to continue to see the world as a talented, educated, mom with a camera! We can never take off our mom lense, and we should not have to!
(09.03.08 @ 02:47 PM)oops, that should have been lens, not lense. ouch! I hate it when you make a mistake and now I cant change it, it is out there for all the world to see. Ugh!
(09.03.08 @ 02:50 PM)ha ha... dawnfh I hate when that happens... I do it all the time. :(
Farrah,
I think we have met the same person though it happened to me at the Bridal Show.... but very similar comment... it went something like this..... our prints were next to each other... and people were coming by and commenting about how much they loved the photo (mine) he walked up and looked closely at it... and said... "wow .... that could have been nice if it was in focus".... He then came up to me and started to talk to me on the merits of the PPG here locally and how they could set our pricing and make us profitable... etc.... totally turned me off. I might just decide to join now that I have met another cool young photographer who is going. :) It was nice meeting you yesterday. I LOVED your new place. And your work looks like... well a mom took the photos... but one that is very professional and mastering her craft... coupled with the passion and quality and heart that only can come from a MOM! So "poo" on the OLD man who commented on your work in such a way.
Cheers.
JOe
(09.03.08 @ 04:22 PM)Oh Farrah, a brilliant post, I shall direct my fellow "mom photogs" here. I have so many thoughs whirling around about this. I have the utmost respect for persons like yourself, professionals who have trained in their craft. It's part of why I squirm when people refer to me as a 'photographer', I always correct them...'no, just a mom with a good camera.'I think you embody the best of both worlds, a mom and a professional photographer, and you will always do well. Thanks again for a great post, that man stinks!
(09.04.08 @ 08:09 PM)Shame on him. Constructive critism is one thing - putting someone down is another.
And I understand about thinking and dwelling on it. I scrapbook. For fun. I am NOT an artist - though I grew up desperately wanting to be one (my mother and brother are). It's been hard for me, but I am learning to use my own ideas and designs... not simply copy someone else's idea. I was talking to my dad about this and he suggested I take some design classes at a community college on design. And while technically this is a good idea, I was completely deflated when I heard this and dwelled on in for sometime... even let it get way of my scrapbooking for awhile. Even now... it bothers me time and again. Fortunately, I have a wonderfully supportive and loving hubby.
Okay, enough "woe is me", stepping off my box now...
Thanks for sharing this!
(09.08.08 @ 07:09 PM)So funny that I asked you about this today, and then came home and read your post. That was exactly what I was talking about...
Great minds think alike,
Veronique
(09.08.08 @ 07:44 PM)I don't know you, you don't know me but I was linked to your blog by Brene Brown, who doesn't really know me either. But I do know that what I just read, was like reading my mind. Thank you for taking the time to be so vulnerable, honest, intelligent and sharing this. I have been shooting for @ 10m now and have had these same thoughts, feelings, emotions rise up within me. Surrounded my "males" who I reached out to for advice, coaching, etc. Some surrounded me and took me under their wing, as where one could only point out how much I didn't know, understand or my equipment was not up to par. Geez, I as just starting and in fact 10m later still shooting with the same camera body and have added only 1 50mm 1.4 and doing great! well, at least by my terms, and isn't that what really matters most anyway??
(09.09.08 @ 03:59 PM)I found your blog like Karen did and I really love the perspective you have to offer. We got an SLR last Christmas and have really enjoyed it and our photography has gotten better but we recently enrolled in an adult education class for photography. We are learning a lot but we have weekly 'contests' on our assignments and I am learning again how to take a critique and what people do and don't like and how it is down to the person, usually. I come from an art background in highschool so I remember the critiques...but it has been awhile!
(09.13.08 @ 01:53 AM)